How can i help this guy realize that i am not the problem. It really pisses me off because he complains to me like im a disgusting person who is bringing his life style down.
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You know the answer to this. He is in the wrong. Obviously.
He is using passive-aggressive blaming mechanisms to shift the blame to you to cover up for his own shortcomings. He clearly has some misogynistic views about housework being 'woman's work', though he seems to be clever enough to know that if he said if straight out he would get in 'trouble'. So he just covers up those views with anger and blame, attempting to make you feel guilty for not doing all of the cleaning.
If this is NOT ok for you (which is shouldn't be, to be honest), then you may want to really think long and hard about whether or not finding a new apartment with this guy is actually the right move. That kind of mentality is pretty ingrained, it's not something you can usually change very easily. And it will get worse over time.