Most Helpful Girl
How do you expect to meet a girl if you don't go out. You don't have to go to bars.. Just go outside, she might be reading on a parking bench, or out the grocery store. Go to church if need be
Most Helpful Guy
We show the best side of ourselves when we're in our element. Whatever that is for you, that's where you put your best foot forward and maximize the chance of showing the good things about yourself to women.
Many guys just don't have the tools to create that immediate "spark" that women require when you meet them at a bar or in even in an online dating scenario in many cases. You likely need them to find you interesting and a good guy first, then give them the opportunity to show that they're worth your time.
So go out and do things that you enjoy, know about and/or are good at, and where you will meet women that you can talk to without the pressure of having to get the next date "now" or lose the opportunity forever. On top of that, expand your interests so that you're in your element in more times and places.