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Yep, we always overthink. But why? Because we're afraid of rejection. This weekend, overthinking on third date was actually what made the girl I was seeing ditch me. I met her friends, I was terrified that THEY would not like me, so I acted strangely.
To her it must feel like the opposite: I was pretending to be someone else the first two dates and the real me came out on third. There's no point trying to convince her now, what is done is done.
What can we learn from that? Be yourself (and if you suck, improve yourself, but don't just pretend to be great). That will mean you will not go past first date most of the time, but you want to be with someone without having to "dance dance revolution", like you said! You can't keep the charade forever, its only delaying the rejection for later (if you want to use them for sex, I guess thats the way to go)