I do not have much of a social life, and even less with men. I am 26. Its not that I haven't received any tokens of interest throughout the course of my life. On the contrary there are men who have sent a flirtatious glance or signal my way. But that is as far as it goes due to my quiet and reserved nature. I have a perpetual fear that if I were to date I would not be good enough. And that is also a factor. But this has been a predominant feeling for so long that I am starting to wonder if the reason on being good enough is just an excuse to avoid a relationship. I have recently met a guy online and after a short conversation he suggested that we get together, in other words, go on a date. I thought that I wanted this, to try it out, but there is a stronger feeling of fear and hesitancy. I don't think that I should force myself to do this if I don't want to. Do you? Anyways I feel there are other areas in my life which has more demands on my time and attention right now than a relationship after all. I still have much to learn and improve on. Sorry, I don't know where I want to go with this at this point. I just wanted your counsel.
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A couple of things come to mind. If he suggested a date after "a very short conversation online". I would question his motives. The last thing you need is someone who wants a random hookup; that will utterly destroy your already floundering self esteem.
Is this a dating site or some other online media? I'd be more inclined to say go for it if it were a dating site.
If you want to meet him, plan initially for a mid-day meet up at a Starbuck's or something. Safer to meet in a crowded place and mid day means you can plan an escape if you need one by claiming plans later.
In dating, you are going to meet many different guys. Some will be good for you, others will not. I stick to my guns about one thing; if you already have a lower self esteem do NOT have sex with anyone early on. Nothing wrecks even a confident woman's mind more than when a guy sleeps with her and moves on.
Yes, you should take a chance. Don't have really high expectations, though, just set your mind in having fun at the moment. You will have to get out there eventually, why not now? Keep your guard up and be safe.0