Okay I met this guy on FB. He's 12 years older than me, 35 and 22. He's super sweet, and super good looking. He opens the TRUCK door for me to get in and out.. like heyy.. anyways.. we were recently discussing where we were at. He works off and isn't home much, I work all the time and am in school. I currently live about 70 miles from him but plan to be closer in the fall bc of school. He offer to help me find a job in the city, and stay at his place, even though he wouldn't be there. What? He wants to settle down, he's divorced with 4 kids. I would like to settle down as well, I mean it's not a rush, nor is it with him. I'm not aposed to either single or settled. However I do want to live on my own before I move in with a guy, as I live at home now. It just kinda weirded me out that he mentioned it.. I dk if that should be a red flag or what. He also made a joke about finding a younger better looking fella at school when I transfer and gunna kick his old butt to the curb. Which made me think maybe he's insecure? He's never said anything like that or that leads me to believe he is in the past. We aren't in a relationship.. we haven't put a label on it, we see each other when he's home, and we talk/text while he's gone. We've been having this thing and talking since mid January, but we've only seen each other 5 or 6 times. But it's great when we do. My thing is, should his joke and his offer throw up red flags?
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Any divorced guy that is over 10 years older with 4 kids that has bagged a hottie like you (I'm assuming that is your real pic in your profile) is going to feel a little mismatched. I wouldn't say they are red flags. He's probably just really into you and wants to keep you around however he can. Cut him some slack. He's just hoping you'll stick around. Just tell him you'd rather stay on your own. If he starts being an ass or overly worried about that then that is your red flag.1