we kind of keep joking about meeting up in Guadalupe in the Caribbean. But then today she hit me with plane ticket prices,
I just wonder if it could work... and what the end goal would be for the two of us.
any advice on LDR's like this?
- Its complicated. Here's what I think.
Most Helpful Girl
LDRs can work when (and only when) there is a plan in place to actually live in the same place eventually. Pay in mind, however, that you don't actually know your partner until you have lived/been with them in the same city for a consistent period of time. Words are only words. You can't get a sense of what a person is actually like until they're physically in front of you.1
Most Helpful Guy
Only if both people are willing to make the effort.
My sister broke up with her fiance recently. He went to a job in another city several months ago, and she was supposed to follow him down there later this year. But, she got promoted at work, and he started neglecting their relationship. He was happy where he was, she was happy where she is, and it became evident he had stopped caring, so they ended it.
I myself am in a long-distance relationship which has lasted much longer than theirs did, and from much further away, but she has started neglecting it as of late. She's in a very difficult degree program and I've tried to support her in any way I could, keeping my private concern private and giving her space, but these days there isn't much communication and frankly I have little idea of what's even happening anymore. I'm afraid things are going the same way between us as they went between them.1