I've been going out with these 2 guys.
the first guy is cool. He's geeky but smart. He's funny. He makes me laugh a ton. He's very down to earth and really sweet and he's just gotten to be such a good friend beyond everything else. He's also very vocal about his feelings about me... he wants a relationship and he wants me to move in with him and he says he wants to take care of me.
its just the thing is for me with him... there's no fireworks. Like I like him but it's not anything intense or passionate.. more like fondness I guess?
Now guy number 2 I've been going out with even longer. He's so smart and so my type. He's handsome and professional and also a reaaally great guy. Like just a great person with a great heart. But the thing is... he does vocalize his feelings for me but it seems less stable then with guy number 1.. like he isn't 100% ready for anything serious, tho sometimes he acts like he is. And he is reaaally busy a lot of the time.
its just... I like him soooo much. Like inside and out. Whenever I get a text and I see its him I get butterflies. When we hang out I can't stop smiling. Just being around him makes me feel happy and when he goes awol I get really down and sad about it.
anyway here's the problem... guy number 1 is kind of at like... the piss or get off the pot point. Like he's ready to move forward and he doesn't want us to see other people anymore and he wants to commit and I feel like... if I don't I'll lose him. And I'm kind of afraid to. But then if I do I'll lose guy number 2 and that's even scarier.
If you were in my shoes what would you do? End it with guy number 2 and commit to number 1 or end it with number 1 and hope number 2 gets his act together? Even if there's a risk he doesn't and you end up alone and have to start over with someone new (which terrifies me). Im just so done with casual dating and want long term
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Well for 1, I wouldn't date two people at the same time to avoid this exact situation. How long have you been dating those guys because when the first guy asked you to move in with him so he could "take care of you" that kind of made a red flag pop up. Honestly I'd go with guy #2. You can't force yourself to have chemistry with a person. And you'd just end up thinking about guy 2 whenever you were with guy 1.