Most Helpful Guy
Respect your parents. They are providing you with an education which has taken you from them. I am sure you know that you do not win by pushing him in their face, so don't present him to them. No one needs the stress.
You cannot bring up a woman to be a good person and not see the world find her attractive. Slowly the purpose of your family will disapate and you will move on without them. It is their choice to stay stuck in a small world filled with hate.
Think about it, each time they see someone different they must search their mind for a reason to hate or drop their guard. It is a misserable life to be "on" at all times.
The time will come when they must come around to recognize what makes you happy. Life is about how we deal with change, every day is a new experiance and challenges, they will come around through time and prayer. Good luck,
Most Helpful Girl
Girl, I feel for you and am sorry that you are forced to choose between your freedom and your family. Its not fair and it's not right!
I am a believer in honesty being the best policy but I agree with previous posters - the fact that not only your person but your future is dependent on your parents support means you have two options: lie or surrender. However, lying and leading a double life as well as willingly bowing to the demands of racists and bigotry will both weigh on you and cause additional stress and grief. Judging purely by the tone of your message, it seems that you are a good daughter who respects her parents and understands that she is not entitled to their financial support. If you weren't a good daughter, it would make the lying easier; the irony is cruel.
Are you 100% certain about your parents' extreme reaction? Is it possible that they would make an exception, that their daughter's favor would change their perception - just this once? You made it pretty clear but I know from my experience that compromising your beliefs and the guilt from lying is very harmful and hurtful. All options must be ruled out so this can be avoided at all costs.
Either way, I hope you reevaluate your thoughts to ensure all emotional bias is been removed when assessing your parent's potential reaction - this assessment dictates where and how you go from here and over or underassuming can lessen your options. And I pray that your parents reconsider theirs. Best of luck to you all.