Why is this considered racist when It's just my preference?
Do they expect me to go on a date with them (spend money on me), just for me to tell them, "sorry I don't think this can work"?
- This is racist
- This is just preference (not racist)
Most Helpful Guy
I don't know if you have any interest in a Biblical slant on this matter, but the New Testament tells us to beware of people who make a public display of how pious and righteous they are. These people who are castigating you for stating your preference are simply trying to prove to others how liberal, open-minded, and loving they are by sending a message of hate in your direction.
On the specifics of the issue, I have the same preference as you; I want a companion who I am attracted to, and that just happens to be a member of my own race.
Most Helpful Girl
It's not necessarily racist, it really can just be a preference, but some people try to excuse their racism as personal taste. Like my old roommate wouldn't date black guys because she didn't trust them and felt unsafe around minorities. Wish I were kidding. But she swore she wasn't racist, she just had certain preferences.
But if you genuinely just don't find certain features attractive, and it doesn't have to do with stereotypes or prejudice, that's fine.
Just be honest with yourself and make the best decisions you can. Don't waste time trying to appease other people if they're just misunderstanding you.