Most Helpful Guy
No. There is no cosmic power or karma that sends love your way based on anything you do or don't do.
That doesn't mean it's not sometimes a helpful mindset. Sometimes people try too hard and fail to be themselves, which hurts their ability to develop meaningful relationships. In other cases it can deter the self-loathing and self-destruction that is often associated with frustration. If it helps you relax and be yourself, it can help you improve the way you relate to the opposite sex for sure.
However, for plenty of people, especially for the many guys most girls don't find attractive, its necessary to be proactive. If these people take the mentality that love will just "happen" to them they're going to very often wind up lonely and bitter.
Most Helpful Girl
completely! In grade 12 I almost fell for this disrespectful, below average complete creep because he showed me a little attention it was pathetic! The way I let him treat me was worse, he forcefully made out with me until I was choking and having an asthma attack finally was able to hurl him off of me. After that I still gave him chances!
After all that I realized how idiotic I was for dropping all my standards just because I felt bad for never dating at 18. I turned down some grad date invites and decided to go with my girls, enjoy every second, and make memories with them. Near the end of the night I was at an after-after grad party and my friends had wandered off to get the pizza we stealthily ordered. I found another friend of mine on the couch and slid in beside her and realized I was between her and this gorgeous boy who played cello in a play I was in. I always thought I caught him looking at me during the play but I brushed it off because he was a boy who nearly every girl in my grade has had a little crush on at some point. We ended up chatting and sitting together on the limo that was dropping off all the drunk kids, then for the last two weeks of grade 12 he would follow me around school because he knew he didn't have much time left to flirt and he was super sweet and we fell for each other really fast.
We will have officially been together a year in June and I've never felt so close to another person in my whole life I love him so much!
So bottom line NEVER drop your standards you have them for a reason!