If I ask a girl and get rejected will it help? Should I focus on my friendships with girls right now and hope that will help? Or should I seek therapy or something? I have no problem talking to women or being friends but I cannot show the slightest sign of liking them. I have a serious mental block.
Most Helpful Girl
Honestly I'm a big fan of therapy so I don't see how it could hurt. I also agree with Klaatu. Rejection is going to happen. You could be the most amazing person ever and people would still turn you down. And that's okay! It doesn't mean you're automatically not cool/hot/lukewarm enough. It just means you weren't the right balance for that person.
Have fun being the best you YOU can be and eventually you'll run into someone who does like all of those qualities. Then you'll look back on this and laugh :)0
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Most Helpful Guy
Let's put it this way. If a guy says he never gets rejected, he is LYING or DOESN'T approach girls.
I'm not being arrogant here, but a lot of people have said I can get any girl I want simply because of the way I look. I still get rejected. I don't think you should get professional help because what do you think he is going to say? He is going to say go out and approach girls, the SAME advice you would get on this website, but he is charging you.
Just think about work or something else rather than dating. Have you failed? Yes? (Cause you're not perfect) How did you react? Did you get all embarrassed, or did you pick yourself back up and tried until it worked? Same applies to getting rejected. I don't think you should ask a girl out who would reject you because that defeats the purpose. Getting rejected helps in the sense that it's a part of life and you WILL wake up tomorrow healthy and fine. However, if you continuously get rejected then you are probably doing something wrong.1