There's this girl at college I really like. It's been two years since I've really liked somebody, but when I met her, something felt right. Anyway, we started talking, and getting to know each other, although not at a deep, personal level. We spent two months like that, just plain talking about stuff.
Last week, around Thursday, I asked her out, but she turned me down. She said that she didn't want me to take it personally, since she thought I was a good, sweet guy. She said she just wasn't in a "dating mood". The weekend passed, and on Monday at college, she came to me and said she wanted to be clear about the other day, and again, she said that she thought about it over the weekend and concluded that she just didn't feel ready to date, and a lot was going on for her. I told her she didn't have to worry about anything, that I understood her feelings and that we could still hang out and be cool. The thing is, she has been really weird all week, barely talking to me. So after all this, I'm not sure about what she might feel towards me. I'd like to think she likes me enough to give me a chance in the future, but her answer and her attitude towards me has mereally confused.
What do you guys think? Any advice is welcome and appreciated!!
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I honestly hate to say this, but she has no interest in you romantically. You're reading the signs completely wrong, and I know why you think you still have a chance. You still think you have a chance because she came up to you after you asked her out. What she was doing was a nice way of saying "I don't want to date you, and I want you to realize that". If she legitimately meant what she said, she wouldn't be avoiding you at all and trying to get to know you better. She's a very good person because she's trying to avoid leading you on. I'm really do hate saying this and I'm sorry, but there's probably not a chance of you two dating. I would tell you if there was, but there are no signs in your explanation that says otherwise. Her saying that you're a good guy (not necessarily the sweet part, that part is fine) was pretty much saying that you were too nice, and never truly opened up about yourself. When you're not yourself around women, they can't really gauge whether you could be potential partners in the future.1