So I was curious as to what everyone's opinion is on when it comes to seeing someone new. Do you believe that if a guy isn't spending money on you, then he isn't as interested in you? Or do you think just hanging out, doing activities you both enjoy and talking/getting to know one another is just as good?
I know some people say (and I've also read articles) if a guy isn't spending money on you, then he probably doesn't want to commit to a relationship or anything serious, but I don't necessarily agree with that. I dated a guy for almost a few weeks and when we went on dates, he spent about $50-$70 each time. A week after our second date he was miraculously in a relationship with another girl. I've started seeing a guy recently and we haven't really went on a date yet or anything. We've mostly just hung out in his apartment talking, watching movies, getting to know one another, playing games on the Wii (we are both into video games). Now that's not to say that I wouldn't like to go and do other things with him, such as going out to eat, going to the movies, bowling, etc. But it really hasn't came up yet. I think we're both pretty content just "hanging" out and doing what we are. It also seems like people associate hanging out with just being friends, but for me it's definitely not like that at all.
I personally don't like guys spending a lot of money on me. I also think that some guys are under the impression that if they are spending money on you, then you have to reciprocate with other things, usually sex and what not. I do believe two people can be genuinely attracted to and like each other, without the guy needing to spend all kinds of money, and just getting to know each other and doing activities you both enjoy. Doesn't need to require spending money.
What is everyone's thought on this? Do you believe that as long as you spending time with the person and getting to know them, then it shouldn't matter whether you go on actual dates or just hang out?
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Where-ever you got those facts, they are completely incorrect psycological stereotypes. (The one I want to indentify with that statement is "If a man doesn't spend $$... he doesn't want to commit to a relationship")
1) Dating - I believe that when someone desires passion, love, happyness, etc - they will fight for it, until that time happens, they will not fight for something they do not desire. This means that if you find a player that won't commit to anyone, but then he is in a bad car accident and can't move (drastic event), he will then make a decision of what he wants - does he want to find the woman of his dreams to take care of him ---? Who knows...
2) Hanging Out - most men in my town use that as a "i want to get some one on one time with you so that I can get you interested in me". It's hilarious to watch - rather than someone making an invitation like "Hey lets go to the movies, you me - tomarrow"... People would rather say "lets hang out" or "i enjoyed this time together, we should do it again" (I too am guilty...)
Dating would be "You & Me are together, we won't cheat etc - but we will actually make an honest attempt to work towards improving this relationship. If everything fails we will be okay with each other for the time being, but if it becomes bothersome too much, we will eventually discontinue talking"
Hanging out - "I like you, lets get to know each other" (In some cases people will use this as a "foot in the door" leading towards parties or other things where people are quite often "used" and then left.)
(The information here is just my observation, this isn't the 100% accurate guide to term definitions, but seriously spend some time looking at these two areas and you will see the same thing. Life is only what we want to perceive)