My problem is that I just don’t know how to talk to women at all and I’m very shy around women I find attractive. I feel all I need is practice, but I get so nervous and anxious that rather than confronting my fears, I’ve been avoiding them. One reason is because my father made me feel worthless from the time I was very young and I was teased a lot in high school. As a result, I withdrew inward and I never had great self-image and lack confidence. My only interactions with women were kept strictly platonic, never romantic. I never allowed myself to feel anything more than that because: I was convinced no one would want a loser like me; and I was scared of being vulnerable.
I live in a small town and the number of single, eligible women is limited, so only relatively recently have I considered dating. I tried online dating for a year but I got no results. I don't drink so forget the bar/club scene entirely. I’ve always felt like the odd one out, and as each year passes it seems to further diminish any romantic confidence. I know I’ve got love in me and much to share, but I don’t know how to find someone to share it with. Unfortunately, because of my past and choosing to be the complete opposite of my father, I have turned into the stereotypical “nice guy” who pretty much every girl says she wants, but ends up never going out with. I feel very lonely and unwanted.
Any advice for me on what I should do?