I love my boyfriend, he's an amazing guy, everything I ever wanted and more. He is very forward and a very intimate person, which boded well for me because I am very affectionate. We're the couple that is always close to each other, and his arm is always around my waist. I love it, it makes me feel warm and safe and attracted to him... but...
Now he just plain touches me too much.
I love being affectionate, but my boyfriend over the past few months staying at my apt a few nights a week (still haven't moved in) won't keep his hands off of me. He always has to be right up against me if we sit together, is always rubbing my arms if he's close to me... and it gets worse. He loves groping me, sometimes even when company is around, and if there's beers, it's even worse. If I'm turned around he'll fondle my butt or my boobs, always nuzzles in my neck... all things I like - if we're actually going to have sex. But he just does it just to do it. Even when we sleep he has to be right on me in a tight spoon - it gets hot and uncomfortable. I wish I was exaggerating but unless there's a door between us, he's all over me!
It used to be cute and sexy but now I feel smothered and annoyed; it makes the special moments less attractive and special and I don't want us to lose our spark. What should I do?
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This is something you'll have to talk to him about, he probably senses that you are annoyed and misinterpret it as loss of interest and will increase his level of affection.
You have already put it very nicely in your description above, tell him that you love him, that he's everything you've ever wanted. That you love that he's an affectionate person, but maybe he could tone it down a little because it makes the special moments less special. If I were you I'd bring up that you get a bit uncomfortable when he gropes you in front of others.
Make sure that you explain to him that you like that he's an affecionate person if you don't want him to stop entirely, bring up his good qualities and tell him what he's doing right so he doesn't feel like you are criticising him. I'm sure it will work out fine! :)0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE