I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years soon next month, i kinda want to settle with her down the road later and we love each other very much. Bad problem is , she's been keeping our relationship hidden from her family since the beginning, i understand at first because her family especially her father is a bit racist (I'm black and she's asian). So its been close to 2 years, she's met my entire family and friends yet she expects me to keep being in the dark with our entire relationship. I can't pick her up on dates, we can't go to certain places in fear of her family finding out or whatever because it might jeopardize her family relationships.
Im not saying i have to meet them but i rather not do in the dark thing anymore, I'm too old for it and i feel uncomfortable at this point. what should i do?
- keep hidden for her.Vote A
- no don'tVote B
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It's time to face the music
I know Asians tend to be really endothermic and she's afraid of her parents disapproval and consequences
Consequences: family shame because you're black, I hate to say it but Asian culture isn't color friendly
They'll probably try to make her choose and/or threating to disown her or cut her funds
Depending her specific culture/group it can be less or more extreme but by continuing to let yourself be hiding your basically setting yourself up to be hurt
Because eventually there will be pressure about marriage, BF/GF, suitor they'll probably be expecting a nice Asian guy to walk through the door, if her parents are super traditional they may even find one for her then she'll have to decide
The fact that she's keeping it hidden this long is not a good sign.
Unless of course she's graduating soon and will be financially independent soon waiting will make no difference
She'll still be in the same situation at 18 as she is at 24 if not worse because eventually there will be family pressure to date/marry0