It's difficult to meet people because I have to avoid Social gatherings "Clubs, Bars etc." due to my health. but if I do start talking to someone after 2/4 weeks of dating I tend to disclose my health problems to who ever I'm dating after which the following happens. Good morning and night texts turn into "I fell asleep/woke up late", dates get pushed back, They're on there phones more and in the end they say "I met someone else, but I'd really like to stay friends." or "If you want we can hook up a few times"
What up sets me is every time, I'm always the one they talk too about relationship issues or in one case having to get up at 1am to pick them up from a party which there "New boyfriend" left them at.. I'm the sensitive, caring heart that everyone opens up to and talk too.
What my friends tell me is its hard for girls to find a guy they can talk to that doesn't just wanna sleep with them, having a guy they can open up too and have a decent conversion with if difficult and that girls get suspicious sometimes when they meet a guy like me thinking I just act this way to get with them.
Now I'm getting scared to talk to anyone especially now that I'm pretty sick (Hospital right now) I want an honest opinion. Would you date someone with CF? Knowing the Complications of it? Knowing you would be the "Head of the household"?
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Dating with a chronic illness can be tough.
It's one thing to stick by a partner who becomes ill while your'e together (and even that can be really rough on relationships). But entering a relationship with someone who has a chronic illness means signing up for the difficulties and pain right off the bat, and knowing that your partner will likely have a shortened lifepsan. It's a lot to take on.
I'm actually a respiratory nurse, so I have a lot of patients with CF and am pretty knowledgeable about it.
If I'm perfectly honest, I could handle dating someone who had activity limitations, I could handle being by someone's side and supporting them through all the treatments, medications, hospital stays, etc. I would be fine being with someone who had a g-tube for nutritional supplementation. I could handle the coughing and sputum. I could handle the fact that he's likely infertile. But the things that would be really scary for me would be the potential that he would need a lung transplant (for which the survival rates aren't that great) and the fact that I would probably lose him at a pretty young age (life expectancy for people with CF where I live in almost 50, which is great compared to what it once was, but it would still mean committing myself to growing old without him (assuming that our relationship became serious)).
I feel like a bit of an ass for saying that, since I know that actually having CF and dealing with the realities of it are far, far worse for someone who actually has CF than it would be for me dating/having a relationship with someone with CF.
All that said, while having CF makes it more difficult to date, plenty of my CF patients do have boyfriends/girlfriends. It's not hopeless.