have low selfesteem issues since i was a kid and been thruogh a lot of crap from the last two years,
tbj im desperate to ne happy iv tried thearapy and everything... and i have self image issues aswell...
im so scared to get married one Day if he can't make me happy and only cares for himself...
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Surrounding yourself with the right or wrong people can effect your happiness, but they can't make you be happy. If you have deep issues preventing yourself from being happy, then there is no one on earth that can force you to be happy. You need to deal with the issues preventing you from being happy.
I disagree with what I think AmandaLynn1930 is trying to suggest. People that are unhappy, can still be wonderful wives or husbands. There does come a point where your issues can effect the other person, but as long as you are treating them well and not bringing a lot of drama into the relationship someone else could still be happy to be in a relationship with you. In fact some happily married people don't have any idea that their spouse is unhappy. It is when you take your frustration out on them or expect them to always be your emotional rock that it starts to become an issue for the other person. This however is unlikely to be a solution for your unhappiness.
You need to figure out why you are unhappy and deal with that. If it is because you have never felt love, then finding the right partner may actually be a huge step in the right direction. If however this isn't the reason for your unhappiness then you will still be miserable.
There may be several reasons you are unhappy that you need to deal with. Some may be issues from a certain event when you got hurt in the past. Some may be issues about the poor quality of people you have known causing you to lose faith in humanity ever loving and accepting you. Some may be issues related to your health preventing you from being happy. This is why you need to figure out why you are unhappy before you can fix it.
The best advice I can give you without knowing why you are unhappy is to work on your health by eating right. Go to a doctor and see about medication that can help. Then cut out the bad people in your life, and only allow positive people in your life. Also work on building your self esteem.0