As I've heard again and again on here pretty women get approached by jerks and thus never end up with nice guys. To this logic it is incumbent upon the attractive nice girl to seek out and make the 'nice guy' feel at ease and comfortable enough to ask her out. in my opinion this could take forever. Since the nice average Joe isn't used to being approached he goes through all kinds of internal dialogue, self-doudt, suspicions and what not that keep things from getting off the ground.
in my opinion this act of sizing the girl/ situation/ motivation is its own sort of game playing.
I realize there is a difference between being blunt, straight forward or worse just completely coming in out of left field. I always hear men saying they wish women would catch up and take the lead but in reality how much is that actually true
Men do seem to enjoy the chase and value women more after having to go through the pursuit. More and more though it seems their are less men willing to actually go through the pursuit and psychologists note this pattern of dviorced men self-described as 'bad pickers', basically they ended up with their wife because she didn't decline his advances and hung around.
That may be a bit extreme but I find myself stuck between trying to spot the nice guy out of the ones who approach and falling flat when I try to take the lead. Time is the only measure I have found which is frustrating. Men/ women any thoughts on a woman approach man style that works
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those guys r stupid basically...
i've seen tooooooons of guys playin games, yet they don't admit it ;-)2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE