Most Helpful Guy
What you are doing right now is pure negative thoughts that will spill out in your world, in your actions, attitude and body language. I think whatever you are going through is something now here in the moment but it is NOT permanent. Unfortunately, how long it takes to stop you from feeling like this is all up to you. I think you're great looking but you already know that, but maybe it's just the area you are in. I've buried the girl I wanted to marry, she was the first person I ever thought I would ever really think I could love. But sadly she's passed, and yes it took a long time for me to get back into dating and guess what it does suck but I'm out here trying, putting my BEST self out in the hopes that maybe I can find someone else who is looking for what I'm offering. Whoever that girl is, is going to be worth it you just have to weather out the storm.3
Most Helpful Girl
You, tiredofwaiting, are in good company. I'm know lots of people who are tired of waiting for a relationship. I am. But maybe the better way of looking at it is that we have been given this time of singleness as a gift, an opportunity, a phase that may one day disappear. And, I think, that there is something nice about being single. However, I too often think that I'm going to be single for the rest of my life. I wonder if this phase is permanent. And I've found myself closing off opportunities with men I should have taken because my mindset has become so entangled with eternal singleness. So don't give up on the idea in its entirety, but don't mourn over your current lack of a boyfriend. Live life, love others and laugh often. Personally, I'm not waiting for anyone to enjoy life but I'm also not opposed to having a partner in the adventure. You are a treasure beyond monetary value; don't worry about finding someone. First focus on finding yourself, so that when the right person comes around you can find each other. And you are lovable. Every single person in this world is loved, and you will be loved.
A relationship may not be in my future; I have some standards, I'm not very attractive and I'm a virgin, waiting to have sex in a highly-committed relationship (marriage). And honestly, I have to be super drunk to kiss men. My friends have called me a commitment phobe, and clueless when it comes to guys advances. I have never had a serious relationship, but I've dated some guys, and I've had guys hit on me and ask me out but I couldn't because of logistics and I have lots of guy friends. So technically, I've attracted some people at times and my personality isn't always repulsive to guys. I just need to sort myself out.2