I live in a small, relatively boring city. I've tried various activities, classes, and sports, but when you get right down to it my social circle doesn't change very often. I'm nearly thirty, on the shy side, and I've found that since I've gotten out of college, meeting women is very difficult.
Has online dating proven helpful to anyone here? What were some of your experiences?
Most Helpful Girl
My older brother met his wife on there, she's amazing. She was the first girl he wrote to, she instantly caught his eye. They have such a strong connection, and have been together for 6 years now.
I hope when I'm ready to date, I can be so lucky. I'm shy and out of school myself. I work from home, so I can't meet new people as easily. I hope to find a guy that is serious about dating and potentially forming a lasting relationship, one who isn't just looking for a one night stand...2
Most Helpful Guy
Online dating has reportedly worked for some people, but largely seems like a waste of time to me. To be fair, though, I've never tried it.
"If you haven't found your person by the time you graduate college, are you pretty much screwed?"
Hahahaha, no, you're not. You simply need to get past the idea of dating within your social circle. That means asking out strangers.
When you're out and about and you see a girl you fancy, talk to her. That's it. In the grocery store, in the cafe, at the park, walking down the street, in the mall--wherever you see a girl you fancy, say hello. Ask for a date.
You can be strategic about it too. Want an ambitious career driven sort? Odds are you'll find a studious girl at a library. Want an athletic girl? Go to a park and find a runner. Etc, etc.
Now heads up, you will have to get used to rejection. Even if you are really attractive, you will get rejected A LOT. That's just the nature of the game. As you get better, you won't have to ask as many girls before getting a date, but at first, you can expect infrequent dates. As you get better and more knowledgeable about how to ask for dates, you'll get them more consistently.
Set a quota for yourself. Ask out 10 girls a day. The faster you pile up the rejections, the faster you'll learn how to get dates.
Best of luck ;)1
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