My boyfriend says things like that whenever I call him out on things he does that bothers me. For example he might say,"I'm sorry that you feel that I ignored you at at the party." I hate that kind of "apology" because it invalidates my feelings. It tells me he's not sorry at all and thinks nothing is wrong with the way he's acting. How would you deal with a non apology. Would you call them out on it and what would you say?
Most Helpful Guy
You know what, that is a bastard of a comeback and is unfair. Its like lawyer talk and pisses me off. Be confident and believe your assertion is valid. I would say this "I don't feel fuck all, you are being a dick and telling me what I should be perceiving, are you fucking professor Xavier or some shit? im giving you an objective statement, you ignored me at the party, plain and fucking simple, and you are a dumb fuck for not seeing it. Do that again and I will leave you... I refuse to be with someone who a) is so delusional to think that you can "read" my mind, and b) does not respect me and my decisions"1
Most Helpful Girl
I'm sorry you feel that his apology is a non apology or that it invalidates your feelings. I mean your non feelings.
No... Wait... I'm sorry he feels non feelings... No.. You're sorry for not feeling his non feelings.., dang it... he's sorry that you're not feeling his feelings of non feelingness...
Last time... I apologize that I feel your non feelings are invalidated for feeling as if your non feelings don't deserve an apology with feelings.
There... I think.0