Her first day is tomorrow and I want to send her a text in the morning wishing her luck. But I have also been intiating a lot lately and I kind of want to lay off and wait for her to initiate so there is more of a balence. Thoughts?
Most Helpful Girl
Hmmm... what type of girl is she and how does she respond when you do message? Does she seem like she is really into you? Personally, I like when a guy texts me before something like that to wish me luck. I liked when a guy that I was talking to would text me in the mornings to tell me good morning and that he hoped I had a good day. It put a smile on my face. Then he stopped doing it. I thought he was losing interest. Come to find out, he wanted me to do the same for him every now and then. I had no clue. He thought that I wasn't as interested in him as he was in me. It was a complete misunderstanding that ended those texts. He was offended and I got my feelings hurt by his reaction. I was always enthusiastic when we talked or messaged (every single day), so I thought he knew that my interest was there. I was wrong. I also knew that his work hours were crazy and he was usually already at work when I woke up and sometimes when I went to bed. I didn't want to disturb him if I wasn't sure whether he was working or not. He saw that as disinterest. I told him, but he didn't want to hear it. In the end, he showed me his true colors and I am glad that he did. He saved us both a lot of time.0
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Most Helpful Guy
Striking a balance is important especially if you're beginning to feel that this encounter is mostly one-sided.
The safest way to get her to initiate in a way that shows her interest is to set the stage for her. Say something like "I have to go now, text me after you're off work and let me know how it went" or "I'll be busy all day and available tomorrow night if you want to shoot me a text". Those messages set the stage for her to make a move, and she will do so if she's interested.1