I'm energetic and have been told I have a good personality. When I go out with female and male friends I'm social and kinda lead the group. When I go on a a fate I become super reserved and chill. Then I'll let the girl lead conversation and become a listener. I'm not dominant when with a girl I really like and I've had girls tell me their not used to seeing me act like that. I always thought girls prefer to be with guys who will listen and let them get their ideas out. I'm starting to think I women like me better when I'm louder.
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I agree with @willow74 -I like a compromise. I want a guy who listens to me, but it is INCREDIBLY nerve-wracking to try anything with a guy who just kinda passively lets things happen. I'm guessing that what happens with you might be that you're asking out women who are used to seeing you social and energetic, and who like that version of you and are thrown for a loop when they go on a date with you, and you're acting totally differently.1