Been with him on and off for 4 years. Needless to say, it is kind of a ritual he has going on. We will be good for months on end and then he will all the sudden bring up the past. Let me tell you a little about it- He left me for another girl in the beginning of our relationship, but the next day regretted it and came back. He cheated (kissed someone) in the beginning of our relationship as well and we worked past it. Two years into our relationship he left me and said we needed a break but HE made me agree that we wouldn't sleep with anyone while being split up. Needless to say, I found out after a week of being at his place visiting that he had been fucking some girl who lived with him and his cousin for about a month. Which meant he had been fucking her since the day after he left our home. I tried seeing someone else and he flipped out. I eventually called shit off with the guy I decided to see because my then ex made me feel horrible about it and kept saying things like "How could you do this to me? I thought you wanted to work things out?" So I waited around for him to decide who he wanted and he eventually chose me. We moved back in together and things were going great. Except he keeps bringing up the past. Mind you, its been over a year since we got back together. But now, we will be fine and then all the sudden he will bring up how I was seeing that guy when he was banging someone else. He blames it entirely on me. Said that I as in the wrong, not him. He even tries saying that I left him for another guy, which clearly is not the case. If anything, he left me for her. He also pipes up with "Who are you talking to?" as soon as I get on my phone. And even if I am speaking to my mother, he will scowl and say "What does she want?". He isn't controlling, dont get me wrong. I am allowed to do whatever I want but he doesn't have a choice otherwise and he knows better than to tell me what to do. But why does he always do this? Guilt? Talking to someone else again?
On and off boyfriend keeps bring up stupid shit?
What Guys Said 3
Given the history between you two it should be crystal clear that he is simply using you. Do yourself a huge favor and cut him off completely like you should have done when he left you for another woman. All you are doing by not cutting him off is inviting more drama and bs into your life and trust me when I say he isn't worth it.
I know it's going to hurt. But it does not change the fact that you will be far better off without someone like that in your life.1
u r not married why do u live together? n u also do sex? that's very bad. a girl has to save her virginity for her husband. who knows u r going to marry him or not. now u r living together, in case he doesn't marry u who is going to marry u? a girl needs to be careful about all these things. and also u have to keep up the prestige of a girl. u should try to control your youth. a girl is like an open treasure. any one can come n take the treasure. so please please n one more time please be careful.0
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What Girls Said 2
Honestly, leave him for good. He seems mentally and emotionally unstable and you definitely deserve better.1
he's talking to someone else.0
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