I'm a college senior and I recently met his girl through a club I'm in at my college. We sparked instantly, and we've been flirting for about a month and a half now. We've both been so busy that we haven't really had a chance to get together more than three times so far. I really, really like her and she's freakin gorgeous, so I can see a real future with her.
The problem is that I just found out that she's only 17. She graduated from HS early and enrolled in college last fall when she had just turned 17. It's not illegal for me to be seeing her in my state, but I feel weird about the age thing anyhow. She seems really mature and is a really serious student, so she doesn't seem like some dopey young girl at all. Does her age make it impossible for us to work out?
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It's a hard call to make, because this depends on the person more than anything.
If they're mature enough (which she sounds like she is) is the main thing, but then you also have to keep in mind that the gap will have different issues associated with it as you get older. Like there's the drinking limit, which might limit the places or activities you go to or do together. Also if she's just started college and you will be finished soon, you will be working and she will still be studying soon which might make it harder to see each other. And then further down the road if it all works out, there's the question of how she feels about her future with you. I'm sure between the ages of 17 to 23 you dated other people and had those single experiences... Which she might see you as or regret missing out on... so if you get where i'm going, it may not end well in the long term. These are all what if's and stuff, because like i said it comes down to the person.
I think that it's not so much the age gap itself that will provide obstacles, it's that age gap at this time of your lives. I feel like in your 20's you grow and circumstances change rapidly so it's a bit different then other periods of your life.1