Seriously, I see so many articles and questions where women are ranting about how awful, terrible, evil, etc. nice guys are, but they rarely turn all that vitriol at abusove assholes, no, not bad boys or jerks, I mean abusive assholes, you know, the ones that actually deserve it. I don't see myself as a stereotypical nice guy myself, in fact, while I try to be nice, I know I can be a bit of a dick (though that's mostly because bad experiences have made me kinda bitter and cynical). However, I still notice it, and find it very jarring, that nice guys are treated as worse than guys that actually abuse girls. Why?
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I'm not a feminist, but I have a few friends that are. I don't get what you mean about how feminists "hate nice guys MORE than abusers". It's simply untrue. Articles and magazines focus on how offending "nice guys" are, because they're an everyday thing, you know? People can relate, which means that those types of magazines are bought, those article pages get more views, etc. It's all about making money/views.
Just because feminist writers tend to write about "nice guys" more than abusers, doesn't mean they hate them more than those types of guys.
It's easy for feminists to write about how offending nice guys are, because nice guys are, well... nice. And feminists sometimes get the wrong impression about that because they might mistake it for the guy trying to prove to them that they can't help themselves. For example: A guy opens the door for a feminist. A feminist might be insulted, thinking "Who does this guy think he is? I can open a damn door by myself. I'm not helpless... Honestly, what a sexist!!"
But their are a lot of articles written, trashing abusive asses if you look for them. it's kind of scary, really. You do NOT want it to leak that you're one of those guys around a group of feminists. They're ambitious and strong minded, so they'll know how to "break" you. :P1