We have had a lot of issues in the past. He cheated at the very beginning of the relationship, we worked past it. He had left me for someone else, also in the very beginning, we worked past it. We argue like normal couples. He has used some stuff against me that no one should ever use against anyone. Really took a toll on my feelings on him but my love for him has never gone away. We ended up splitting up for 3 months and both got together with other people, just to find that it wasn't what either one of us wanted and we got back together. We have been together for a year since that point now. He purposed to me and I said yes. When he purposed (10 months ago) he told me "I dont want to spend the rest of my life beside anyone else but you. You complete me. I know I have made multiple mistakes but I am hoping you can find it within you to forgive me and make the happiest man alive." It was a very sweet purposal. Well, last night we had a few drinks and we were up talking on the couch. All the sudden he piped up with "Remember how we were in the beginning? How magical and exciting everything was? Do you think we will ever be in love like we were back then?" So I said, "I am still in love with you like I was back then. Its just that we have grown up and life has gotten less exciting. We dont do anything." And he said "Yeah, I know. But I kiind of feel like even if we did do everything we used to, we still wouldn't have that love again. I was so in love with you." So I asked him if he wasn't in love with me anymore? And he said "I love you. I love you with every single ounce of my being. But I haven't been in love with you for a very long time." I didn't even know what to say. I waited till he fell asleep and hid with a bottle in the bathroom, crying my heart out. How can you purpose to someone that you aren't in love with? I normally dont post of my relationship bullshit on her but this has really gotten to me. Please, help me figure this out. I'm sort of desperate, ha.
Been with my fiancé for 6 years and he is now all the sudden saying he loves me but isn't in love with me?
What Guys Said 3
Sounds like he is not in love or he is confused. Lots of guys get the seven year itch where they get a little bored. It passes1
Lol you should have broke up with him after he cheated the firs time. Lol at staying with someone who cheated and "working through it." You know what he was thinking? "Yes I can get away with it again." Which he probably did, multiple times.0
What Girls Said 3
I think he knows that your the best person for him and he selfishly doesn't want to let you go. I suggest that you leave him.1
If someone falls out of love, there's unfortunately nothing you can do about that. Love can't be forced0
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