He's 27, I'm 32, it felt like love at first sight, mostly all laughing & natural chemistry. I got fiesty with him the 1st week we started going on dates, and after over-analyzing everything, I was going to end things (at that point I was his "girl but not yet girlfriend") . To reassure me he was serious about us, he asked me to be his girlfriend & "made it official" on facebook (sounds silly, but his family & friends are on there). Don't judge: I trusted & liked him enough that I slept with him after our first week together
He did a lot of things to show how much he cared, paid attention to details, brought thoughtful little gifts, made dinner for me, did my laundry with me... after a few dates and late night fun conversations, he told me he was falling in love with me. Things were great, he asked to introduce me to all of his coworkers, was very sweet... BUT I'd get angry at him for not calling at night, only texting, & threatened to break up with him - then he'd immediately call and try to talk me out of it
Week 2/3: nice wkd together, then came Tues night. We were drinking, then WHILE having sex I said "and you really don't just want sex from me?" (I don't honestly believe that's what he was after, he's shown me enough to know... I was just drunk & being stupid). He IMMEDIATELY stopped & walked away from me, pissed off. We argued, him angry about me not trusting him after he's tried to show me otherwise. WEDS he was a little distant, but we had a fun phone convo before bed. THURS he barely texted, then FRI he asked if I wanted to hang out Sat night. I said "next week would be better" b/c he'd been distant...& didn't contact him for 5 days (he didn't contact me either). I texted him Tues, & he said I keep saying "stupid shit" to him & breaking up with him. I called, told him I want to be with him, we were OK for 2 days... UNTIL last night: I got dramatic, he was tired of the fighting, ME: "fine, let's end it" HIM: "Can we just take a break"
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You need to treat others like you'd like to be treated. Which hopefully doesn't include these negative actions. Otherwise, you will get a negative life and guys will simply say "enough, I'm am done!". I don't blame him at all for getting pissed. He has every right to be, with good cause. I mean what could possibly possess your mind to cause you to say "you really don't just want sex from me?", when you KNOW better, and his ACTIONS have made that clear? That's just self-sabotage. What you have to understand is that you will NOT have positive life with a negative mind. It simply will NOT happen.1
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