Me and this girl just recently told each other that we like one another and she is clearly expecting me to take her out for a date, which is currently causing me headaches.
First off, I have no idea what to do on a date other than eating. Like, okay I know there are many things I can do like movies, pub, club, events, ..., but seriously, I have no interest in any of those.
You will probably say find something you are interested in then, which I will tell you quite honestly that I have close to zero hobbies.
I am a boring guy who simply stay home and sleep. The only things I will actually do are things that are not interactive like reading books, playing games (must be single player), watching tv (need absolute silent when watching).
Even for eating, I much prefer just quickly stuff my stomach with fast food or going to a food court than a restaurant. I don't really enjoy or appreciate food in general. To me, a lobster from a top-end restaurant is the same as a piece of no flavor bread that I have to microwave from a freezer. As long as they stuff me, they are all the same.
I can force myself to do all those for a date but it got me thinking.
I don't think I can last more than 3 dates. And from what I know, people go on dates very regularly when they are in a relationship and I can sense it from this girl that she is expecting to hangout everyday and wish the guy to plan for it. Just thinking about it seems like a nightmare to me.
The best date in my mind right now is sit around at my house doing nothing. I doubt she will enjoy it though.
Am I not cut out for relationship? should I just call it off with this girl? I really like this girl and she told me she likes me a lot as well but I don't think she will be happy with me when I simply don't enjoy doing anything.
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Well, there might be some women out there who don't like going out and/or doing things. But they're probably pretty rare. I mean, even women who are introverted and homebodies will probably want to do things with their boyfriend, even if they're things they do at home. And a woman who also doesn't like going out is going to be more difficult to meet because... she doesn't go out.
Forcing yourself to do these things may work for some time, but as you've said, you don't think you can last more than 3 dates. If you stop doing things with a girl, she'll probably think your boring, lazy, and/or not interested in her. Even girls who prefer to stay in instead of going out will likely still want to talk to you, play games with you, watch television together and talk about it.
I mean, it could be that when you start spending time with a girl you like, you may discover that you actually like doing things with her. I don't know.
The way you've described yourself makes me wonder: Are you depressed?1
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