This is an example of something that happened with my ex:
We were making out on his couch. He grabbed the top of my arms but it was too hard. I said, Ow and pulled back. I explained I am more sensitive cause I have fibromyalgia, although it's a minor case. He looks at me confused and with disbelief. I ask him, "You don't believe me?" He doesn't answer. I don't want to make a big deal out of it and we continue making out.
But when I think back about it, it was a big deal. By not even bothering to answer my question, it is offensive to me. He either doesn't know what fibromyalgia is... which is fine, but he could have asked me what it was. Or he really didn't believe me, in which case he is implying a) I'm making this up for attention or something, or b) I self-diagnosed myself and I am exaggerating my skin sensitivity. Both of these assumptions are not true (I have a diagnosis) and I find them pretty insulting as I have suffered a lot with my illness. He also didn't even acknowledge that he hurt me, like even a soft, "Oh, sorry" or even a nod, or smile, or gently stroking my arm would have been nice.
When is it overreacting on my part to press for an answer? I stopped myself because I knew if I pressed it would wreck the mood. But I really wanted to be like, You're just not going to answer me now? And then say, I'm going to leave then if you're just going to start ignoring me.