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You think you're not controlling because you don't physically force a man to do what you want. But what you need to realize, "either I get my way or I'm going to be moody", is just the same. Men in relationships tend to "pick their battles" as to not wanting to go to war with a woman's moodiness, and before they know it, "happy wife means happy life" turns into another one sided relationship where he is basically nothing more than a tool to help meet her wants and nothing more. Slowly but surely, every inch of the relationship is about her.
All women start off pretending to be everything you want, so a lot of guys perceived as "players" are guys who've simply figured out the game. They enjoy the honeymoon while you all are on your best behavior and bounce as soon as they can feel you trying to pull them into the one sided trap.