I've been seeing a guy for 6 months now, he asked to be exclusive 3 months in by saying "Don't date other guys" and told me he wants to me married and have 2 kids and wanted to make sure we are on the same page with what we want.
He is a great guy, prefers to text, and shy in the beginning-didn't make a move on me for 5 dates, he had a horrible divorce a year ago and has primary custody of his daughter. His schedule with work can be demanding and the 4 days off he has, he spends with his daughter so we only see each other once a week. I believe that I'm his first relationship since the divorce. He told me being with me is like a "Vacation from his life". Around 5 months I met his parents and daughter at a BBQ.
Now 6 months in, I decided to show up at his house, bring him breakfast, and tell him "I'm crazy about you and asked to know how he feels... I told him I think sometimes he is weird with affection (not affectionate sometimes and in public very affectionate).
Anyway, after I told him "I'm crazy about you and I need to know how you feel" he kind of asked "is this the where are things going talk?" I said no that before I can think about the future I need to see how you are when you are drunk and how you are in an argument. He made a comment that he only gets drunk 3 times a year and would never hit me. I said I know that but it's still important to see that side of someone. At the same time, I also asked him if he trusts me...(he sends me extra sweet texts when I'm on business trips - I work in a male dominated field).
I asked if he needed several days to give me an answer and he said he could give me an answer that night. No response for 7 days now. (He has told me in the past, that when he has a personal issue, he shuts down and isn't good at communicating).
Is this him figuring out his feelings or is he silently breaking up with me? if it's a break-up why can't he be direct like when he asked to be exclusive?
Most Helpful Guy
Sounds like you spooked him. In a "she wants to move faster and I'm not comfortable with that" kind of way.
You need to apologise for putting him on the spot and figure out how to get him comfortable again, and not worried that you're unsatisfied with your relationship.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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he's breaking up/0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE