I work out a lot. I'm a former collegiate track athlete, so I've been in good shape since I was in high school. I've always been active and have had visible abs since I was like 12. I want a girlfriend who is physically similar to me, like someone who's driven to be fit and lean. The problem is, when my female relatives and friends try to fix me up, the girls they pick are usually at least somewhat soft and not fit at all. When I won't go out with them I get the "you need to lower your standards" talk, like I'm desperate or required to date out of shape girls. Do girls ever just respect that a guy wants a girl to have the same body standards that he holds himself to?
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I don't think it's shallow. It's just like you said--it'd be a double standard and hypocritical if you were out of shape and expecting fit girls, but if you're holding yourself to the same standards of that which you hold a potential girlfriend, I don't see the problem with that.