My boyfriend and I are both 19. In the fall I will be starting school at a local university. I have big goals for my education and plan on doing a lot of travelling over the next few years. My boyfriend is very smart and says he wants to get his degree but doesn't seem that dedicated to making school a priority. He will be attending a community college this fall. I feel as thought my ambitions and goals are much greater than my boyfriend's and that we are going on separate paths. My parents have instilled a great work ethic in me while my boyfriends parents work low paying jobs and have never really encouraged or motivated him. I love him a lot and want to talk abot this to him because I would hate to lose him. How do I bring this up to him without him getting defensive or angry?
Most Helpful Guy
Well he's motivated enough too go the post secondary, so that's a start. Bring up the subject lightly. Ask him you'll support him all the way through, and hopefully he will feel the same way. Communication is key, one way or another, you're going too have this conversation with him. Has he told you what his main priority is if it isn't school? Ask him and go from there as a starter.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
You cannot force him to become more motivated. There is no way to make him do that.
Odds are that he's going to get defensive or angry, no matter what. If you cannot tolerate the way he wants to live his life, then you should better break-up, instead of torturing yourself.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE