My boyfriend and I are both 19. In the fall I will be starting school at a local university. I have big goals for my education and plan on doing a lot of travelling over the next few years. My boyfriend is very smart and says he wants to get his degree but doesn't seem that dedicated to making school a priority. He will be attending a community college this fall. I feel as thought my ambitions and goals are much greater than my boyfriend's and that we are going on separate paths. My parents have instilled a great work ethic in me while my boyfriends parents work low paying jobs and have never really encouraged or motivated him. I love him a lot and want to talk abot this to him because I would hate to lose him. How do I bring this up to him without him getting defensive or angry?
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ah... that's a hard one.
I am faced with kind of the same thing- same age, both in college- but my girlfriend is an elementary education major and she doesn't care as much about school, whereas I'm a lot more gung ho about studying and stuff.
I think you should just casually bring it up- talk about the future and stuff and what his plans are for it. Talk about studying/majoring and see what he says.
With my girlfriend: we both agreed that school is important- just that she doesn't have to do as much *shrugs*. It is what it is.1