I met a lady online and we talked on the phone a few times and than arranged to meet for coffee. I had seen a picture of her but it was not a close-up of her face. It was an attractive picture.
When I met her, she looked like her picture, but. . . when she opened her mouth, her dental care was horrible! Her teeth were caked with tartar buildup and her right lower cuspid and lateral incisor looked black! I couldn't imagine ever kissing this girl. Her personality was not a problem and I was already aware that we came from different backgrounds but talking to her in person really emphasized the difference in our backgrounds.
The following day, I texted her and told her that I didn't feel a spark between us and maybe if we spent time together we would have some fun but I did not want to mislead her. That statement was true, but incomplete. I didn't think I should say anything to her about her teeth because she should already be aware of the state of her teeth and saying something about it would probably only hurt her, which I did not want to do.
Should I have told her that her poor dental care was a complete turn off for me?
- Yes, you should have told her
- No, not telling her was the right thing to do
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I would have raised dental care in an abstract way if it was a friend but in this context of a date I think it would have just hurt her feelings1