I need some help. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 years now. We have had a previous breakup before because of communication issues and my insecurities about this girl who was his friend. I have insecurity issues. I agree. Anyways, we got back together after 4 months and now I think I may have messed it up again. He started talking to another girl but this time its different because she has a boyfriend and they talk about work stuff. But initially I got jealous and I freaked out a little. I usually never give him so much trouble but I did this time. He got very upset and sad that I did this again and that I dont trust him. For two weeks he avoided me, wouldn't touch me or talk to me. Then one night we ended up having sex and the next morning he apologized for it saying he's not that guy. Then we talked and I told him that if he wants to break up with me thats fine, Ill still be around because we have too much of a history to be just done with each other. I told him its going to be difficult but that we can try and hang out as long as he doesn't shut me out like how he does right now. I told him that he's avoiding me because he thinks that I have all these expectations of him to be my boyfriend and act a certain way an to kiss an hug me but I am removing those expectations and we could just be friends for now. Anyways we talked and then at the end I asked him for a hug and while hugging me he cried and said "I really needed to hear that, thanks for telling me. We are fine. You dont have to go anywhere." I took this as an amazing breakthrough. I also took the "we are fine" to mean that he's absolutley fine and it may take a while but at least he won't shut me out an maybe we can even hug. However, today he talked fine to me but he doesn't hug me. We always used to go out together but now he doesn't ask me if I want to tag along. He tlaks to me but avoids being alone with me for the most part and I am the one usually starting conversations
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I think he's a nice guy. I mean like u said your insecure an it's having effect on him. Your like my girlfriend sometimes she has that jealous insecure look on her face when I mention another girl but I know she cares about me.
You guys will take time to recover fully but I think your an awesome girl for understanding your insecurities and not blaming him. jealousy is the ugliest emotion on a girl it makes u look self conscious and although it's okay and uncontrollable it hurts him to tthink that you think he's low enough to cheat. Jealousy kills relationships honestly. Dont worry thou he's mature and u guys will recover next time let him know of your insecurities but tell him u trust him.
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