- Completely different religious and/or political view points
- Doesn't get along with his family or people in your family
- Doesn't want kids/marriage/to move in together after a significant period of time dating
- Has bad hygiene
- Has bad finances/in major debt
- Has been in jail before
- Has too many exes and/or kids
What are your absolute dating deal breakers?
What Guys Said 40
I'd want a woman to be hardworking and career oriented so not too lazy lol
I don't care what she believes in but if she was really strict in any religion it probably wouldn't work out
She'd have to be pretty socially liberal. I'm very outspoken about things like LGBT rights and other things like that
She'd have to have good hygiene lol
She would have to be multicultural and have an appreciation for different cultures and foods
I don't care about race or social class
I'd prefer her not to be a criminal but people can make mistakes and turn their lives around
I like people who are responsible with money but if they're in rough shape and working towards a career I can respect that
I'm not into traditional gender roles so I'm not looking for that type of relationship at all
I like outspoken women and not the really shy and demure types. I like to know where I stand. If she has an issue with me she should let me know so we can sort it out. I like being proactive in life.
It would be nice if she enjoyed traveling but that's just a bonus
I don't care about height but it would be easier if she was taller because I'm tall
That's all I can think about right now.6
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Of the choices, gotta go with bad hygiene. If you don't take care of that, what *else* don't you take care of?2
It's hard to choose because I have a few. I feel mine are very fair but my main three are drug use/excessive drinking, having kids, and bad hygiene.2
debt would bother me. bad hygene too. That's pretty much all from your list. Some others include: fantastically overweight. Doesn't like anal. opposed to the occasional use of marijuana. heavy drinker or heavily into drugs other than marijuana. doesn't like to 69. any kind of moral objection to video games. doesn't like movies. Worries a lot... That's all i can think of offhand..1
Doesn't get a long with anyone in their family or mine, had bad hygiene, but this to the extreme, has major debt, has been to jail before this depends if its for a minor traffic ticket that's okay, has too many exes and or kids or has any kids, has stds, has tattoos, is a narcissist, has an eating disorder, and has any mental disorders or illnesses.2
My biggest dealbreakers:
1. Lack of things in common
2. Smoker/heavy drinker/drug-user
3. Doesn't want kids
5. Different way of living/culture/religion4
I think the #1 deal breaker out of the options is Vote B. One of my exes used to bang on about how she detested my brother - NO ONE can diss my family.
Apart from that, all of the above are deal breakers for me.0
A little bit of everything. It's not just one thing, I don't think.
Completely different religious and/or political view points
Doesn't get along with his family or people in your family
Doesn't want kids/marriage/to move in together after a significant period of time dating
Has bad hygiene
Has bad finances/in major debt
Has been in jail before
Has too many exes and/or kids0
There is NO excuse for bad hygiene in the developed world in this day & age , shows extreme laziness , lack of drive & no self respect , plus it's foul anyway... instant NO from me.1
Been in jail
Doesn't want kids / marriage
Doesn't get along with family2
I don't know man, I can't pick only one. I'll combine yours with some of mine:
*Completely different religious and/or political view points. I'll sum it as completely different values than mine. I wouldn't date anyone that lacks morals from my perspective.
Excessive body tattoos.
Shares none of my own interests.
Doesn't want kids/marriage.
Has bad hygiene (never seen this before though)
Doesn't want to work or doesn't have a career.
Has been in jail before. Does/deal drugs.
Has too many exes. Has kids, I don't want no one else's child, if that makes me an asshole so be it.3
Slutty past, more dirty minided then me (im nasty lol), doesn't want kids, doesn't offer to pay on dates, isn't generouS with whats her like, smells nasty, backbites about others, wears to much make up, dresses immodestly.
my girlfriend has bad and good.
She pays and is generous but she dresses slutty and backbites sometimes. Overall she has more of the good then the bad. Im working on buying her bigger clothing then crop tops hopefully she gets the picture lol. I love her thou and accept her even the bad because she's the kindest girl I know.0
Hard to choose one!
Being religious, bad hygiene, doesn't get along with my family, expecting a proposal too early, and not respecting my privacy are big ones though.0
I'm going with "Has been in jail before" but "bad hygiene" is a huge turnoff, but something you can change.
Bad hygiene was one of the factors why left my last girlfriend. She didn't smell bad or anything, she actually smelled pretty good and was very clean, except for one thing... her braces. She clearly didn't clean them too good cause you could see the yellow stuff around it, it was very bad that sometimes I didn't even wanted to kiss her.
Also a turnoff is having a different "culture" and having little to nothing in common, also something that happened with my ex.0
All of those were deal breakers besides B - that one i don't really care about.0
Addicted to drugs or alcohol1
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What Girls Said 36
Well, all of those options would probably cause issues within a relationship. However, I voted A.
I most likely could not date a guy with completely different religious and political viewpoints. I'm a Christian and I'm pretty conservative, politically speaking. I just feel like those things (specifically religion) are important and if a guy didn't hold the same beliefs/values as me, it would probably cause tension and conflict at some point.7
I said C but I would also have to say that there are others which would also be deal breakers for me. Marriage is a huge thing for me. I definitely want to get married some day. I'm aware marriages don't always work. I'm not obsessed with it, but it would be nice to share a life with someone and for me that would mean marriage. I'm aware of common law situations, but I have done a lot of thinking over the years and realized that I want a marriage.
I also want kids, and so I think it's unfair for me to be with someone who doesn't and waste their time. It makes no sense to continue the relationship if the guy decided he didn't want kids and I really did. At some point it would become a huge issue.
Anyway, I would also have to say that not getting along with my family could also be a deal breaker. I'm not saying the guy has to be best friend with my parents and brother. But he should at least be respectful. There's a reasonable amount of getting along with a person's family I would expect. I know not every situation is ideal, but if the relationship my partner had with my parents was really bad, then I would have to let him go.
The other one I would say is completely different political and religious beliefs. I'm not a very religious person. And I'm not planning on getting involved in a religion soon. I have some beliefs but I wouldn't call them religious as in organized religion, but more of just a loosely-based spiritual belief system. I don't really know what I would define mine as. That being said, someone who hold religion as being very important to them, may not be good for me. I would be afraid they would try to force me to be in their religion. That's not something I am interested in doing. I can respect a difference of opinion, but when it comes down to me having to change myself drastically, no thanks.
The major debt could also be an issue, but in my opinion that could be worked on. Debt doesn't have to be permanent, you can always establish a plan with your partner to work on getting to a better place financially. It just depends on their willingness and the relationship. It's definitely a touchy area.
Bad hygiene is also on the list of one of my deal breakers. I'm not a perfectionist, but dating someone who refuses to ever brush their teeth or shower is a huge deal to me. People can get sick and diseases can be spread if there is poor hygiene.
Having gone to jail could be a deal breaker, if they went for something serious. If not, and they are0
I don't care about the other things.
1.- As long as s/he doesn't want to change my points of view, I'm okay.
2.- I don't even like my family...
3.- I don't want serious shit
5.- I give a damn about money
6.- I like bad boys and bad girls XD
7.- I'm not dating his/her exes or kids...2
Manipulative, lazy and want's to ride on my coattails instead of having a job of his own, abusive to women or treats us as objects, no similar hobbies, bad hygiene goes along with being lazy (I'm not going to change someone) Is a known cheater (So cannot commit) Doesn't care about himself enough to take care of himself, and only wants sex (kinda goes along with guys who objectify), conflicting religions (way to different to be able to enjoy events with)1
Depends on how long ago he was in jail and what was the reason. Plus has he bounced back or is it still affecting him in different areas of his life?
If he smells thats fixable: Stop skipping showers & use deodarant & body spray.
The rest were dealbreakers for me :/
Other dealbreakers: If I find out he has a gf/wife but gives me a crap excuse "But Im not in love with her" So why are u still with her? Another dealbreaker: Verbal abuse, physical abuse, infidelity, emotional abuse.0
If he doesn't want to eventually settle down with after a significant amount of time that would just suck and I'd come to terms with reality and move on... I would really like to have a nice, stable family. Also, he can't be smelly or anything hygiene is also important.0
1. Has kids (don't want baggage)
2. Wants to move in together/get married (don't want neither one of those.)
3. Tattoos (1 or 2 is okay but not all over his body.
4. Skinny jeans or small clothes on a guy are a turn off.
5. Arrogance and conceit2
I'd only be worried about debt and jail, because I'd assume he'd keep repeating the both of them over and over again. I wouldn't think guys having kids at my age would be a problem, and the rest don't mean anything to me.0
D-G and whinging, whining, nagging and lying. No one seems to make it 72 hrs without breaking one of those 42
I "helped" a guy once with his hygiene, so things like that can be improved.
I had an issue with one guy who was a combination of three things in your list. He and my dad hated each other, he put *me* in debt with his gambling addiction, and he refused to ever marry me one day or allow our relationship to progress where he saw long-term with me. Meanwhile I made the mistake of moving in with him too quick. I ended it for all of those reasons.
If I had to choose, I said not wanting marriage (should also include long-term commitment) because that's a sign that I will forever be putting in way too much work on a guy who isn't as serious as I am about commitment, and who knows what that could lead to later on? Cheating? Stealing? And kind of disrespect, really. No thanks. It took me a few years, but I finally saw signs of when I was just the cow giving away the milk.0
Different religious beliefs, though differing political views doesn't necessarily have to be a dealbreaker.0
I voted B. Family is important to me. If you can't understand or respect that, it's not ever going to work out.0
ALL of these + stupid, argumentative, aggressive, unkind, is always on a 'high horse', an addict (smoking, excessive drinking, drugs).0
I said C, though the great debt worries me a little. Honestly, besides those two, none of the other ones bother me in the slightest. People are wrongfully accused, can't trully afford college, have been in relationships thst didn't work out (children/ex option), and just plain don't like people all the time. For the religion option, that kind of doesn't matter either. They can be different. It's only when you try to force your beliefs on me or others is when I draw the line. Aside from that, I could totally marry someone who was Christian if I were something like an Atheist. It's all about not being a dictatorship instead a RELATIONSHIP.0
well theyre all terrible but the first one is what i care about most.0
different political views
into gender roles
can't talk about sex or feelings
can't tell me when he's mad at me , instead fumes silently.
isn't into physical affection (affection not lust)
isn't into physical activity. i dont care about the gym but he's got to like hiking or swimming or back packing something bc while i like having my own time at some point i want to play with him and that won't mean on a screen. i move more than my fingers when i play.
he doesn't have to like traveling but id definitely like it if he did.
isn't curious about the world
jumps to conclusions instead of asking questions
more interested in placing blame instead of trying to resolve problems.
likes clutter. / i like empty spacious spaces.
im sure there's more but i can't think of it atm,.0
D for sure. I could deal with other things, just take care of yourself. o_e1
expecting me to pay for him or lend him money in an early stage of the relationship0
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