I am having a serious crush crisis and need help on what to do.
You see, I have a huge crush on this guy and i think he was interested in me.
As he would always laugh at my jokes,
he would compliment me and flirt and tease.
The thing is that he lives in America, and I live in England.
And he addressed the issue and told me that he just wants to be friends, because he can not trust himself to be committed
in a long distance relationship.
My intuition/Gut is telling me not to give up on him...
it is really saying " No, don't give up, if he's interested but won't commit, there must be a way"
but i just don't know what to do...
and I am honestly begging you here to please... please... please
please can you reply to this? I have nobody else to turn to, i wanted to ask Marni Kinry but i could not contact her
please I really need your help.
I think he was interested on me,
he wants to watch movies with me on Skype
we plan to meet up in the the future
he laughs at most of my jokes even when they are lame
he remembers things about me
he compliments me
and he flirts and has teased with me.
we even talked about having a bath together and holding hands and tickling each other and stuff. We even have nicknames for each other !
But he said that
" He wants the freedom to be able to sleep with who he wants without worrying about hurting someone he never sees unsure emoticon"
and i know he says that, but
do i really mean absolutely nothing to him?
somethingg inside tells me not to give up and I can't shrug it off...
but I also have no idea what to do.
And I am going to see him Easter.
twll me why I shouldn't be giving up. Has anyone been in a similar situation?
Most Helpful Girl
If he really means that much to you, then I think it's worth keeping him in your life, even as a friend. Feel free to date other guys, just as he seems to be. And if it's meant to be, a relationship may develop later on which would be stronger with that friendship foundation.
"Sleep-around" phases usually only ever last a few years and if you put in the effort to keep him as a friend, odds are it'll be something more once you're both older. Forcing a relationship when people have very different romantic goals is always a bad idea, and once the damage is done, you can't really get that person back in your life.
Don't forget, when your in your 20s you'll be able to travel or go on exchange in college, or vice versa for him. If you're worried about "losing him", I really don't think that's a valid concern. I doubt he's going to settle down anytime soon, so instead of putting your life on hold for HIM, keep him as a friend, and feel free to date around and find someone better for you.
And always practice safe sex...
Also, it may be hard to believe at 16, but when a guy wants you around just as a friend it doesn't necessarily mean that " you mean nothing to him". You obviously have a good rapport and he went through the effort of being honest with you, so please don't feel like your only options are to date or never talk to him again. Two of my close friends came from failed relationships, and we're all pretty happy with our lives now so yep. That's my spiel.