I'm seriously so bemused by this.. I'm not even angry, I just want to understand why guys do this. I've been in this situation a few times now (just happened to me again today) where I don't hear from the guy after a first date (no sex involved), and I give up on hearing from him after awhile. Then a few weeks/months later, he'll text something like "hey how's it going? Want to hang out again?". Like nothing happened! The most ridiculous time was when a guy messaged ONE YEAR after our 1st date asking if I wanted to go out again. What's up with this? Am I just a backup for these guys/a distraction from boredom :(?