The "stuff" i mention is like going to the park, pushing the kid on the swing, all of that stuff. i don;t want to do that and also i'am not ready for a kid. My girlfriend told me 3 days ago and i wasn't excited then she got kind of mad and told me to step up and be a man. I'am not at that point of taking care of a kid and i'am going through my own troubles.
As a child my dad always worked and never once took me to the park and we never threw the ball around or any of that stuff. My mom was the one doing that. I myself don't really want to go to the park either. I know it sounds bad but it's how i feel.
i'am not sure what to do now. i was wondeirng if any of you have any tips? I told my girlfriend the truth that i'am not really ready and the only thing she said is "don't you dare leave me". I won't leave but i'am just in a tough position
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If you are old enough to play, you're old enough to pay. Simply said if you had sex, you are responsible for any life that develops from it. You either have to decide you will step up or you have to live with being a dead beat Dad. This is not only your GF's responsibility it's yours as well. The baby is not going to need to go to the park the day it's born, but your girlfriend is going to need emotional and financial support from you the entire pregnancy and afterwards. Don't worry if you do not have these bonding feelings right now they should develop for your child over time (once it's born and you spend some time with it) and then you will want to be more involved in it's life and day to day maintenance. Or at least you can hope. PS most children are not planned and most of the parents turn out fine.0