im a really introverted person and really insecure about myself. because im always so nervous, even just making smalltalk with a waitress (for example), ill start stuttering just when trying to make a lame joke. by now i realized that unless a girl is really interested in me, i'll never meet a girl in 'real life'.
online i have the same luck. i know that looks are a big part for it to work online, and I don't know if thats the only reason, but i'd say that only 1 in 100 girls ever write me back, and even those conversations end after 2/3 texts back and forth.
im really at my limit... everytime a girl smiles at me (does not happen often) and i can't smile back, it kills me inside, everytime a do get a girl to write me back online, right after, when she stops responding, i just think 'wtf did i do wrong this time?', never getting an answer and ill just start getting even more depressed.
i really dont know what to do at this point,
any feedback is highly apreciated
Most Helpful Girl
A few things:
One will sound a little looney, and that is look up. Look up at the night sky and think about alllllll the things you're looking at. Learn a little bit about the literal universe and realize that nothing really matters. The sentence you're having such a tough time spitting out, it's not a big deal because... you've seen the universe. That's a big deal. Being alive in it is a big deal and this conversation with this pretty girl isn't as big as all that. So chill out and enjoy whatever happens, or doesn't happen.
Another is way simpler, and that is practice. With no script, talk to yourself hen you're by yourself. In mirrors, on paper. Get more comfortable with your own personality and way with words. Be as natural as possible, whatever comes to mind first. It also helps to do this with people you trust and know... i. e. Family, maybe a therapist (I know mine definitely helped me with my social anxiety).
And my last attempt, which is to remember that she is surely as nervous as you in that moment.
Hope I didn't type too much, and good luck!1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
Start doing things with groups like join hiking groups and stuff where you know there will be women.
there's a site for it but I can't remember it.
The best thing you can do to get over it is to actually talk to women and face your fear.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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