Most Helpful Guy
i think it sounds like he is very stressed and busy. It is important not to dump your friends for a new partner, so kudos to him. However, I doubt this will work out long term. It sounds like you want more attention and time together, which is fine, people have all kinds of different expectations in dating.
I had a similar problem with a girl. I was no paramedic, but I was working two jobs, 60h a week for a year. I only ever had one full day off a week and I usually wanted it to myself to. As you described, this girl was also upset by this and saw it as me not wanting to see her. I just spend most of my life around other people, you need time to yourself, you don't realize it, but I am sure you get plenty of 'me' time, so it can sound weird when people have to make time for it, but it happens. I eventually ended up breaking up with her because I was unable to give her what she wanted and was tired of feeling guilty for wanting my day off to myself, or seeing friends when I could.
I know it sounds rough, but I highly recommend you at least think about if you are willing to keep dating someone and feel the way you do, because his schedule won't lessen anytime soon and you are still going to want the same amount of 'quality time' together in the end. It is just a mismatch I think, no ones fault, certainly not yours, you are allowed to want to see him as much as you want after all!0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
It's very normal to need me time and friend time. As long as he does make time for you, even once a week, you're fine. You're still pretty early in the relationship; go out with YOUR friends, too.
Speaking from 19 years experience in his career, the average person has no idea how tiring and stressful both his job and his schedule can be. Our first day off is a waste as we try to recover physically and mentally, and most of us stick close to home. The last day off is a waste as we prepare ourselves for our next tour. Four days off may seem like a LOT to people who don't know or understand how grueling the job is.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE