So I was thinking...
I'm not that overwieght, I'm heavy (165 lbs) but I'm athletic my measurments aren't that bad 40 -28-38 . But either way I've went vegan a few weeks back and weight has just been falling off of me
So I was thinking to joing tinder or some other dating site. But then you know in a few months I might be a lot lighter which would improve my chances.
But then I'll also be graduating, so I figured why not put it off another year? But then obviously I'll be a year older and still without boyfriend
But my friend said it was the most ridicoulous idea she's ever heard, she said I looked fine now and I wouldn't want a guy who doesn't want me now. And she's kinda right I guess? But also I feel losing weight would help a lot, especially online
Most Helpful Guy
I'd personally suggest not aggressively dating but not turning down dates either while still losing the weight. I have a feeling you may get a lot of dates just looking to hook up and not take you seriously though. Many guys deliberately chase heavier girls for hooking up thinking they're insecure so that they'll just hook up with anyone.0
Most Helpful Girl
the fact you asked the question means you should wait til you've lost the weight in my opinion. the whole thing made it clear that you aren't comfortable with the way you are and i dont think anyone will have a successful time with a partner if they feel insecure and ugly. i'd wait until you feel comfortable in your skin. focus on you and making yourself happy and not finding someone to make you happy and in turn your happiness and confidence will attract the right kind of person that will be with you for all the right reasons no matter what your weight.0