My boyfriend and I are both 19 years old and have been dating for a couple of years. We've broken up & gotten back together before, but this time he broke up with me because he is going on a year-long missions trip and doesn't want to hold me back, as I'm in school.
My parents have never been a fan of what he wants to pursue as a career - he wants to be a missionary, live abroad and help others. My parents think this is noble, but also wish he would get an education first & foremost - he doesn't think he's called to get an education at this point in his life. Being a missionary is something he's passionate about and he's the most loving individual I've ever met. But my parents are terrified I'm going to be influenced by his career choice and join him as a missionary wife someday. I want to be a teacher and honestly, I wouldn't mind working abroad and trying to help out as much as I can.
He is aware that they want him to go to school, and he recently spoke to them, informing them of the things that they've said that have 'offended' him, and also stating that whatever I choose to do with my life is MY own choice. They didn't appreciate this note as they found it unnecessary and a little disrespectful.
Now it's awkward because we are still seeing eachother (on an unofficial basis) and my dad is angry with him still and would probably appreciate an apology for the conversation, but my boyfriend doesn't want to apologize and feels that if my parents have a problem, they should initiate the conversation. My boyfriend feels that he 'stood up for himself', but I don't think he needed to? It makes me feel like he thinks my parents bully him, which isn't true - they poke fun.
Anyway, it'll be awkward until someone budges and I don't know what to do... I love my parents but I also love my boyfriend and I hate having to feel torn. Any thoughts on what I should do?