So we've been dating for like 7 months now, not offically boyfriend girlfriend since we both wanna take it slow.
I've hung out with his homies, some of his frds but whenever there is a party, he doesn't really want to bring me along. One day, i was asking if we could hang out that weekend and he said no bcoz he would be having a party. I asked if i can come coz it sounded interesting. He kept making excuses like he would feel bad to get wasted in front of me, he would feel bad that he couldn't talk to me or pay attention to me all the time since he would be talking to frds... I told him i didn't mind it but he still thinks its a bad idea. I got mad and stopped talking him and he said he didn't wanna be attached to a girl all the time, and he knew once he got a bit drunk, he would wanna hug me and kiss me. Am i supposed to believe that?
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It is very hard to say without knowing the guy. But, often when guys spend a long period of time (like 7 months) dating someone without being "official" it's because they are afraid of commitment. Being afraid of commitment could be just immaturity and something he can get over, but it could also be that he's selfish, or that he doesn't think of you as a long-term relationship.
I think it's important for you to back away and figure out what you really want from this guy. If you have long-term interests, you should try to avoid a situation where this guy is just comfortable having you as a casual relationship. Either back away and see if he pursues you, or get more intimate with him / have a conversation about exclusivity.0