So I took this girl I work with on a date. I thought we had fun as we were laughing a good majority of the time. She also went into some her past and you could see she has been hurt. I was surprised she shared some of this stuff with me. She actually told coworkers how fun the date was and that she had a great time. The problem was it seems like she has been a little distant lately. She has been commenting and liking pictures I put on social media. In person she is friendly but seems hesitant almost like she is keeping me at arms length.
Should I back off? What is going on?
Most Helpful Girl
She's scared of being hurt.
The pain she has felt from her past relationships is allowing her defense to go up.
This is where you should step in and show her there's nothing to be afraid of, and that you truly care for her.
With time she will grow to trust that you won't.
But now she remains wary because she is used to hurt.0
Most Helpful Guy
This would be a perfect time to give her some time to think about how she is reacting to you and how you should be reacting to her. Defiantly back off because if you start to pressure her, you'll lose her for sure. I'm certain she likes you, but girls have to look at almost everything about a guy before they start dating, and since you're co-workers, I suspect she's weighing the prospects of dating a co-worker. So to answer your question, yes, it is very normal for girls to back up and look at what she's feeling. This is your time to do the same.0