Okay, now you probably think I'm a racist... but here's my honest no bull explination on why I have a preference for dating an Asian.
It's not because I think they are some unicorn who can somehow provide something magical in my life that these "other guys" couldn't.
No, it's much more shallow than that...
I love their eyes. Hair. Noses. FACE.
I am in love with the Asian facial features. Western faces are beautiful too, please don't get me wrong. However, for some reason I am drawn to Asian features more.
So, I actually have three questions if you don't mind taking a look at them:
1. Am I racist/a bad person? I am the only girl I know (I live in Maine) who is a non-Asian who likes Asian guys. Everyone else here wants a white guy or a black guy (mostly white though).
2. Do I have self-hate? I have very curly hair while most Asians have straight hair, I have a high nose, while the noses I'm attracted to are more flat... see where I'm going with this?
3. Is this the infamous "yellow fever" that I see all over the internet? Can girls have it? How can I stop it?
I am so troubled with this because I get made fun of a lot... I think because I'm half black and half white people expect me to date black/white guys, but on the whole I don't really find them my type. :(
P. s. I've added a picture of me so that you can see what I look like. Would an Asian even like a mixed girl? (I just cut my hair, I have plans on growing it long again :D)
THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME!!! :)
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I know you might feel alone, and in your part of the United States, you might be. But I know two of my friends (white girls) your age who are obsessed with Korean guys. The love Asian guys in general, but they would only chose to date Asians, not other white guys. We've had long extensive conversations about it. The truth is, the preference of some people lean towards their own race while others look to others. There is nothing racist or wrong with wanting to date another race of your choosing. And you are not a bad person, just someone who knows what they like. As for your self hate, it is tied into the same ideology of you choosing Asians over any other race. It would only be bad if you truly believed that an entire race of people, white/black/or all the others were inferior to Asians, or the race of your choosing. As I said, my friend really liked Asian guys at an uncomfortable level. So there are lots of people out there who really like Asian guys. This has only increased with the popularization of J-Pop and K-Pop into the Westernized world. I am also with you in liking Asians. But this doesn't define me as a person, in a good or bad way. It is something I'm comfortable with admitting and eventually you won't be afraid of what anyone else says. The world tries to make us feel bad for wanting something good. It is different, but since when was different a bad thing in this country? Your only real problem is that you are in the wrong state. I suggest you move to either California, Las Vegas, Texas, or New York. There are a lot of Asian guys out there that would be thrilled to date a girl who looked at pretty as you with an open mind of dating Asian guys. I have a few friends from Japan and they complain all the time saying girls never want to date them because they are Asian. He's out there waiting for you0