Don't get me wrong its cool to be in a relationship and I spend a lot of time with her but one day a week I would like to go out and drink with some guyfriends. I haven't gone with them in the 2 months since we have been together and when I told her today that i plan to go out with some guys she told me she wants me to get out of the bar scene and doesn't want to worry about what I will do. I don't want her to go with me cause if she goes I'll be only with her and it won't be catching up with my guy friends. I told her guys need guy friends and I need to chill and just talk about sports, make a few sex jokes, and just plain be a guy. Am I wrong?
Girls, Is my girlfriend being unfair by not letting me have guy time or am I being immature?
What Girls Said 14
There's nothing wrong with having guy time, but that's not the issue here. She's worried about you getting too drunk at the bar. Go out and come back that night without getting too drunk so that she'll trust you and then she'll probably let you go out with your boys more often.
I went out with a party animal once and I was always worried that he would cheat on me when he became too drunk, your girlfriend might have similar worries :(0
Let me tell you a story. My ex boyfriend acted like that. He wouldn't want me to hang out with my girls unless he was there. Bottom line, he didn't want me having fun without him. What I say is, it's nice to spend alone time your girl, but it's also a good idea to have some time for your guys. Dont cut out hang out time with friends just because your girlfriend is getting a little clingy lately. She needs to learn to share you :) and that other people want to hang and have your attention :) equal hanging with friends and girlfriends is best.0
Um, she sounds ridiculously controlling. You're absolutely right. Relationships are about equality. Just like she wants to hang out with the girls some nights, you have every right to just refresh with a new group of people. Kindly but firmly let her know that you love her, but you enjoy spending time with your friends do and it's not fair of her to force you to avoid that.0
I don't think it's wrong. Perhaps you should ask her why she doesn't trust you? All couples need to have their own time and hobbies. It wouldn't be very fair if you weren't allowed time to just be a guy...
Talk it out with her. Try to see things from her perspective, but also don't let yourself be pushed into something that may make you resent her later.0
Sounds suffocating. If she has reason to worry about what you'll do at a bar, then you need to consider how to fix that, but if she's just paranoid or clingy, you have to decide whether you can live with that. I would not be willing to give up that much of my personal freedom.0
No your not wrong at all! You need time for yourself & catching up with your friends is important! Maybe try asking her this so it doesn't fuel an argument :" Maybe we should both have one night a week where we both go out & catch up with our friends & have time out for ourselves? Go wherever we want to go with our friends & do whatever we want to do?" Try asking your girlfriend to something that affect in whatever way you would like to put it & hopefully it might help 😊0
You're absolutely entitled to do. If you guys have only been together for 2 months and she's already trying to restrict you, that's a huge red flag. Especially if you guys are young, going out for drinks is expected0
It's not wrong everyone needs to have their own time. Just don't stay out too late.0
I think she's being unfair by not letting you spend time with your friends but it's obviously because she cares about you. y'all should really talk about it and show her you should be trusted.0
You are doing nothing wrong. She is just worried about you. She wants to be with you whenever she can, and also seems quite protective. Perhaps if you let her tag along just once, but asked her to sit a bit away from your 'group'. If you can always ask the guys if they want to come over to your house and hang out there. Overall the best option is to tell her that you NEED guy time, just like she probably hangs out with her group of friends.0
No, I what's wrong with having guy time0
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