So I've been dating my boyfriend for two years. I'd seen pictures of his ex before and never really felt threatened; I always thought she looked super average. Currently, we're doing long distance because we're both in college and it's summer, but I'm going to see him in two weeks.
Right before summer, I was on his iPad and I saw a conversation with one of his female friends. She had asked him who the hottest girl he had ever dated was. He said probably his ex. About me, he said that I "had my moments", whatever that means. Right away I brought it up with him because I was kind of irritated. He didn't straight up say who was better but just that we dressed differently and she wore more form fitting clothing.
I didn't bring it up again until last night. I've been feeling really self conscious about how I look and generally feeling low. I also feel like he never really compliments me on how I look. While telling him about how sad I've been, I said that I wasn't as pretty as her. He didn't deny it but just said that I'm hot. I didn't like that answer; I guess I wanted him to lie and say I was prettier, so I kept pushing it and straight up asking him to say that she was better looking and he got kind of upset. He was all "Why do you keep pushing it I don't get why you're putting me in this situation. So what if she's better looking, that doesn't mean you're not good looking like I thought you were pretty from the beginning. Also, looks aren't everything and I like you for more than that. I don't wish you were her and I'm glad you're not"
I know I got what I asked for in pushing it. I know there are other things that he likes better about me but I guess just that its a FACT that she's prettier really bothers me, especially since I thought she was average. I've been looking at pictures of her and comparing myself and it's making me want to avoid him. I know I'm being stupid but I don't know how to not let it bother me. I want to hide my face from him.
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Maybe you two need some distance. That's never good when someone makes you feel less than worthy. I also don't like how he allowed the conversation to even exist, he was walking into hot water the moment she asked and should have shut her down immediately.0